November 11th, 2009 | By DyVine
Hey All!
Another DyVineWeek, eh? I had a blast in the A! Ate at Gladys Knights, went to a Georgia Tech game to see my team play, got it crackin’ at the club THEN went to praise HIM on Sunday! *Brown Voice* Thank ya! Much Love to my guy, Osahon (#56). I also wanted to shout out Martin (#10) for coming out to get it crackin Saturday night! Oh, and, in case you didn’t know… GaTECH WON!!! Great Game guys!
Peace & Poetry
~DyVine~
***Happy Birthday H!Side***
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Dyvinedyalogue: Domestic Abuse
In light of the commotion after Ri-Ri’s big interview since the assault by Chris Brown, it would only be fitting that DyVineDyalogue discuss domestic abuse.
I’ve never, personally, been a victim of domestic abuse; I have close friends who have. Abuse is no laughing matter, whether it is physical or verbal. We must all work together to educate ourselves and learn how to spot the signs before it happens to us and the ones we love.
I am a Chris Brown fan to the death, however, I was disturbed to see the pain and hurt that he could bring to Rihanna. I don’t wish abuse on my worst enemy.
Here are some signs that you may be in an abusive relationship (via www.helpguide.org):
| SIGNS THAT YOU’RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP |
| Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings |
Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior |
Do you:
- feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
- avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
- feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
- believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
- wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
- feel emotionally numb or helpless?
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Does your partner:
- humiliate or yell at you?
- criticize you and put you down?
- treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
- ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
- blame you for his own abusive behavior?
- see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
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| Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats |
Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior |
Does your partner:
- have a bad and unpredictable temper?
- hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
- threaten to take your children away or harm them?
- threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
- force you to have sex?
- destroy your belongings?
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Does your partner:
- act excessively jealous and possessive?
- control where you go or what you do?
- keep you from seeing your friends or family?
- limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
- constantly check up on you?
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Statistics
Every 9 seconds, a woman is battered in the U.S.
Family Violence Prevention Fund, 1994.
95% of all victims of domestic violence are women.
Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report, U.S. Dept. of Justice.
Domestic Violence is the single major cause of injury to women, more than muggings and car accidents combined.
First Comprehensive National Health Study of American Women, The Commonwealth Fund, 1993.
Domestic Violence is the cause of 30% of physical disabilities in women.
California Department of Social Services, 1994.
50% of all women murdered in the United States are killed by a spouse or an acquaintance.
Journal of Trauma, 1992
Domestic Violence occurs in 60% of marriages and is the most underreported crime.
National Crime Statistics Report, 1993.
90% of battered women reported that their children were present when they were beaten.
National Crime Statistics Report, 1993.
25% to 30% of adolescent relationships are abusive.
L.A. Commission on Assaults Against Women
1/2 of all rape victims are raped between the ages of 14 and 17.
L.A. Commission on Assaults Against Women
As few as 5% of domestic violence victims are identified as such in Emergency Department records.
American Journal of Public Health, 1989.
Domestic Violence costs an estimated $1.4 billion annually in medical bills, and an additional $900 million in mental health treatment.
National Public Services Research Institute, 1994.
Domestic Violence is responsible for a $3 to 5 billion loss each year for employers due to absenteeism. California Department of Social Services
(via www.therileycenter.org)
As we all know, relationships aren’t always like lilies and Dove dark chocolate (hint, hint *cough* my favorites) so, I decided to provided you all with this information. Please take the time out to read it. Pass it on. I’m no professional when it comes to domestic abuse but, sadly there are people who live it. Learn from them.
Here are some more great sites to check out to read as much as you can about domestic abuse:
Teen-specific Abuse.
http://www.troubledteen101.com/articles47.html
http://www.teensagainstabuse.org/index.php
Domestic Abuse
http://www.ilcadv.org/
http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
http://www.rileycenter.org/domestic-violence.html
As Always, I hope this helps!
Peace & Light,
~DyVine~
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