November 25th, 2009 | By DyVine
Hey ya’ll, so tomorrow is Thanksgiving. I am so about to smash some dressing, turkey, beans and such! Mmmm, fat thoughts! That said, I hope you guys get ya feast on too! Celebrate family; tell that crazy cousin of yours that you love ‘em even though he trips quite bogusly at times. LOL. Kick it with the little ones and laugh at the big ones.
Sending Holiday blessings and vibes,
~DyVine~
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DyVineDyalogue: Expectations
We have expectations in almost every thing that we do. For example, I expect that when I set my alarm, it’s going to go off and wake me up at the time I dictate. This is because past experiences between my alarm and I dictate that this is the way things are. I set it and it does what it’s supposed to do. I drop a letter in the mail; I expect that USPS is going to deliver it. Why? Because, that’s what is supposed to happen. So, it’s only natural for me to assume that in everything I put effort into, I expect some ROI (that’s return on investment for you non-financiers, like myself). We take our expectations and we apply them as we see fit. We apply them in our friendships, our relationships and every other aspect of our lives. When we label a person “friend,” we expect that, to some extent, they’ll be there when we need them. Same goes for “boo,” “bae,” “boyfriend,” and “girlfriend.” We have expectations of these people. But what are we basing our expectations off of?
Much like I referenced with the alarm clock, my past experiences generally dictate the level of expectations that I may have towards a specific subject. Say for instance with preference. In my experience, light skinned guys have always been cute. Not to say that there aren’t some beastly looking “lighties” (as I like to call them, LOL) but, in general, the ones I’ve dated were worthy of 8 or 9 point on a 10 point scale. So, if Isis came to me and asked if I were interested in meeting a friend of hers who happened to be light skinned, I’d EXPECT that he would be cute (along with the fact that I know she wouldn’t send me off LOL). The point is, my past effects my future expectations. I’d also like to add another aspect that effects your expectations. That aspect would have to be your outlook, the way in which you view the world. If you have a negative outlook on a situation, you won’t expect very much from it. If you choose to look at the brighter side, good things will ensue.
Having said all that… this is DyVineDyalogue, so, you know where I’m going with all this. OUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS AND EXPERIENCES EFFECT OUR EXPECTATIONS FOR OUR FUTURE RELATIONSHIPS AND EXPERIENCES. And that is the God-honest truth.
Fellas, you ever meet a lady whose standards are “too high”? Chances are, she’s had an awesome dude before that she wronged and is trying her best to replace him. Or, she’s been with one too many bottom of the barrel dudes and feels she deserves better—way better! Ladies, ever met a man who expected you to do everything for him (tell him you ain’t his mama and), slap him into reality. Then tell him to grow up and be a man! And honestly, if no one is meeting your standards (ladies and gents), you may need to get your nose out the clouds… you might be day dreaming. Or lying to yourself… either one! Take your pick. Hahaha
I say all this to say, reflect on your expectations in every situation. Think about why you expect this or that. Decide whether the expectation is spot-on or if it’s a little far-fetched, especially when it comes to relationships. We expect a lot out of people. Should we be expecting so much?
And another thing… people will not always meet the expectations that we set. Be realistic. Do you always measure up? Think about it!
Peace & Light!
~DyVine~
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