Real T@lk Gives Us a Preview From His Book “Poetry and Facebook Notes”
A preview from Poetry & Facebook Notes: “Time, Women & Relationships”
(DISCLAIMER: This was written in haste as a Facebook note so excuse the grammar. The author has a Bachelor’s in Journalism-Advertising with a minor in English and a concentration in Creative Writing)
***Fellas listen up!!!***
TIME & WOMEN
As we all know or should know …WOMEN ARE THE BEST TIME KEEPERS!!
They keep track of a lot of shit, they know when something’s late, and they use this to keep us in check and make us aware that they are watching.
Why are they so critical about time?
They have to be! When they reach adolescence, they have a “monthy obligation” until their 50′s, not to mention regular check ups with the OB/GYN
“Repition is the mother of learning” (this convo even makes that statement deeper with the connection “mother” to women)
>Stay with me now!<
So...they apply those time management skills to everyday life at that adolescent stage and so forward; us men don't. Thus, women begin maturing their fundamental responsibilities faster while we just go out and play and learn what sperm is and what an orgasm is and etc. lol
So...with that being said...
the reason why women are REALLY pissed off when dudes fuck up is because it was a waste of.... you guessed it!,
***"TIME"***
***"TIME"***
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Men, When we fuck up and do whatever it was that we did to break her heart, at that moment they're SUPER PISSED(no brainer), but all they want to do at that point is know that they have YOU still and wish it never happened(NO MATTER WHAT THE OUTTER CORE MAY SHOW!) so that they may move forward(that is, not waste anymore time, but it's hard to not waste time and discipline us simultaneously). Because they know if they don't show us they're upset, we may take the situation and eventually them for granted.
THE FIGHTING & F***ING CYCLE
Proof that they still want us... is the "off and on" stage that follows the relationship. This may consist of and is not limited to Lying to oneself and the other person(both women and men do this) saying that u can handle the friend role, but crossing lines that you feel that you're entitled to cross because of the history shared; and then blame the other for not stopping you lol(THAT'S A CLASSIC!)
SCENARIO #1:
(Via Telephone)
Girl: Hey, i'm over it, we can be cool now, i can respect if u just wanna be friends...Wanna come over and watch a movie...(You know like ALL friends do? YEAH RIGHT)?
Guy: Ok. Sure (Acting stupid.)
time passes...
..::bed squeaking followed by vocal, "heat of the moment" sexual shout outs:
(ex: your the best! OMG!, harder!, where are you gonna put that ice and chocolate?, faster!, is that a Mint?, Oooh shit!, or damn that's it?, Oops! my bad this has NEVER happened to me before., etc. lol or whatever u hear in your bedroom)::...
SCENARIO #2:
(Via Telephone)
Guy: Hey, i'm over it, we can be cool now, i can respect if u just wanna be friends...Can i come thru and chill...?
Girl: Chill...like how?
Guy: i dunno, watch a movie, i got "THE HANGOVER" on DVD
Girl: Ok. Sure (Acting stupid, what other defense will you have? you'll be laughing and having fun, ALONE with your recent ex, that you find attractive and seen naked before,... has made u feel good before...and he's appears not to be trying to get in your pants?)
time passes... <"Give a n***a an inch and he will go a mile"!>
..::bed squeaking followed by vocal, “heat of the moment” sexual shout outs:
(ex: your the best! OMG!, harder!, where are you gonna put that ice and chocolate?, faster!, is that a Mint?, Oooh shit!, or damn that’s it?, Oops! my bad this has NEVER happened to me before., etc. lol or whatever u hear in your bedroom)::…
*Note: And you don’t feel AS bad because you know u had history with this person so you feel that it doesn’t SOUND as bad as having the infamous “one-night stand”.
Aftermath: Either they go with the flow and get back together or one pulls out(no pun intended) and stops the other. The “stopper”(guy/girl) says this isn’t right. The “stoppee”(guy/girl) says, how could u lead me on, u know i have feelings for you….THEN WASH, RINSE, REPEAT, the fighting and fucking cycle…feelings get stronger EVERYTIME it happens, thus making the “love rehabillitation” process LONGER and LONGER in which you “get over this person/counterpart”
*better described by John Legend in “Again”
I advise that you either get together or stop completely!
But the worst case scenario is when you’re the one that doesn’t want to let go!
>>Back to the first subject…”TIME & WOMEN”
Men, just know this…women, being so engulfed in Time value they sat apart blocks of time for when u fuck up and treat her good…i call it “Remember-Vision”
to set this example, i must use variables…
(1-10 represents the time you started dating until now; 1=met, 10=now, the time in between could be one year or 5years.)
“Fucked up”- includes anything that pissed her off that deals with another woman..
so, for example…if you fucked up between 2 thru 4, 5 thru 6, and 7 thru 9 and the rest was good? They temporarily block that bad shit out until you “fuck up” again
During 4 thru 5 she was in bliss and used "Remember-vision" to reminisce on 1 thru 2
During 5 thru 6 she was super pissed because she's using "Remember-vision" to recall 2 thru 4 shit that u did to add to the argument; that information all of a sudden then becomes relevant lol
During 6 thru 7 she's in LOVE, she remembers the "ups and downs" and puts the "downs" in a box, locks it, throws it in the ocean, and swallows the key.
During 7 thru 9 she pays fisherman to find that previous box she threw in the ocean and pulls out the spare key her best friend had and opens that box and throws all of that shit in your face
u get where i'm goin with this?
When women say they don't want to remember; they REALLY don't want to remember the bad times(they condition themselves to block it out) and etc. and they don't have to recall until we fuck up and remind them...
So men, let's do our part (this only applies to those in the "off and on" stage)
if this shit keeps happening, let's get our shit together and either leave her alone or stay with her and put all other BS to the side...because when u get a little older and u want a wife to do all of the shit that she did to keep you...u won't find her and will have to settle for less (Less, meaning that originally she's the "ONE" that you want your wife to be like, and after #1 is #2 or "less")
>okay count to 10, let that last part marinate<
IN CONCLUSION:
Lastly, i want to say:
1.If what you have is going good, and it's routine or boring; communicate to your partner what you want different. it keeps the relationship fresh and not mundane. Don't be above teaching, asking, or learning; you'll be satisfied in the long run.
2.Men, if she's taken you back after you fucked up; she's not there for your money or just sex, it's YOU- all included
3.Curiosity killed the cat. don't do it! there ARE other fish in the sea, but not one that does what u like and etc. It'll be like throwing a needle back into the haystack!
Don't think about "what if"?, if 'IF' was a 'fif' we'd all be drunk"!!
Peace and Love,
@REALTALKTHEPOET