#D_V_Dyalogue: Men Can’t Date

A little bit ago, I saw the following vid from one of my favorite video bloggers by the name of Jerry Lavigne, Jr. The gist of the video is that a man cannot date like a woman can, and of course that got me thinking, is he right?

Watch the vid below and see Jerry’s perspective…

Well, is he right? I know a lot of the fellas are like “H*ll yeah” and ladies, for the most part are either disagreeing or agree but, feeling a tad salty (like I was) to know that they had unknowingly been a part of proving ol pretty face here to be true.

I’m here to say it’s the truth. Women will have several men on their roster and have each of those fools thinking that he is the only one. Oh, not because she lied but, because men don’t ask. More importantly, men don’t care.  Even if a woman does say she is dating more than one guy, they won’t care—unless he wants to be your one and only. And, chances are, if you’re just dating… he probably doesn’t care because he knows he’s got his own thing going.

Most women have this “my punnany is the ish” complex. It’s why some of us will date nothing as* men and try to turn them into what we want them to be. It’s why some of us, who are audacious enough to approach a guy, will get mad if you reject us. And it’s also why when you tell us that we’re one of many… we ain’t goin! LOL

In a woman’s mind, she’s thinking, “I’m all that, and you should recognize it. I’m a grade A chick and you need drop all them other chicks.” Ladies, don’t lie because I’m outing you! Hell, I’m outing myself! At one point or another, I’ve uttered those words in some fashion and my BFF would say, “But you got other dudes!” and I’d go, “That’s not the point!” LOL. The point was, I’m a prize and he’d better act like he was happy to have it! Selfish, I know but, I’m willing to admit I’ve thought this way before.

So? Ladies, how do you propose a man to date with droves of women out there thinking so selfishly? Dating is about meeting many new people. Jerry says that we have this notion of “pre-boyfriend”s.  That, I can also say is true. We want this new guy to wine and dine us but, what happens to him after weeks; maybe months, of being your ‘pre-boyfriend’ and you decide to go with another option? Is that really fair. Him wining and dining you took up all his time from meeting other new people.

From a guy’s perspective, unless you have no real life (job, hobbies, responsibilities, etc), you don’t have time or money to wine, dine, and be the ultimate “pre-boyfriend” to more than one chick (two at the most). It’s unrealistic. And fellas, here’s a tip, she dating you just as much as you’re dating her. When people get into relationships, they always say, it’s 50/50. Well, so is dating! Bring the ultimate 50% you have and if you don’t think she’s doing the same for you (because you’re not that high on her list), let her go.

Men and women should be honest and up front, epecially when you’re dating.  It is their business if you’re seeing someone else. When you agree to date, you agree that this person wants to get to know you and maybe progress to more. So, you should let them know if there is any other “competition” or if you’re a willing participant to a one-on-one dating experience.

So, ladies, get over yourselves and your “punnany”!!! If he tells you he’s dating other people, accept it.  If it causes you to date more people, then do so.  However, if you feel he shouldn’t be, re-evaluate what you’re looking for and let him know.  Men shouldn’t feel forced to lie to us from the get-go about who they’re seeing.  This is a free country! And you should be glad that he tell you something like that, so, when you decided to make it exclusive, there will be a real discussion; no assumptions or guess work!

Hope ya’ll enjoyed!  Keep it Breezy Loves <3

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